Taking this last half of a line by John Maxwell and making it a question gives us opportunity to explore choice.
Choice is defined as an act of selecting or making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities. So how do the choices we make make us? Let’s start with attitude. We all have a choice to be content with circumstances beyond our control or to be bitter about them.
Let’s take the choice of family, since we do not get to decide which family we have. Say we have several siblings and we have to share our parents’ attention. We can complain and be angry. but typically all that does is make us miserable. No one wants to be around a miserable person, so we are more alone! We can act out or demand our way to get more attention but the kind of attention we get is usually not what we want! Or we can accept the fact that there will be times we feel left out, but other times we will feel favored, which usually leads to a more positive family dynamic.
History abounds with stories of individuals who grew up in horrible family situations, or no family at all, and yet, became well-adjusted and successful people leading productive lives. The opposite is true as well. Our prison system is expanding because of discontent that leads to abuse, greed, violence, and misery.
Look at your life. Are you where you want to be? Are you the person you wanted to become? Could the choice to change your attitude make a difference in your life? Why not try for one month to be thankful for every little blessing…a new day binging with it new opportunity, breath in your lungs, the beautiful sky overhead. Life is a gift and if you have health, you are blessed indeed. Having a grateful heart for one month, making the effort to see the positive things and be thankful for them, may not change your circumstances much during that time, but if you make a habit of gratitude it will change your attitude. And, a positive attitude attracts people with positive attitudes and they are more pleasant to be around.
One thing is for certain. If you complain, feel cheated, or take people for granted, over time you may not have to worry about pleasing others for you will one day find yourself all alone. On the other hand, if you have a thankful heart, understanding that to everything there is a season, your positive attitude may lead you into fellowship with others. Circumstances change. People change. The only thing we can really change is our attitude, which will change our actions. Good choices bring positive results where poor choices do not. You have the choice. Make choices you can live with, not choices you live to regret!
by Becky Wood